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The Thing About Idols...

Journal Entry: Sun Jun 1, 2014, 4:48 PM
This is something I've been thinking about for a while...

This is a note about idols. A lot of people have idols, I think that's a fairly common thing, and has been for a long time. It's nothing new. What is new, of course, is the accessibility of those idols, and, somewhere along the line, this is where a certain problem has occurred.

See. The problem with idols, actually stems from the name itself. 'Idol' is meant to be reserved for something divine, something to be worshipped, something, in itself, perfect.
Somehow, the 'modern age' (which encompasses a long time, in truth), has hijacked that term, and used it to mean something different.

Because, of course, those we now call 'idols', are not divine. They are, in fact, human. And, we all know. Humans are flawed. Or... Not even that always. We're just fucking complicated.

Once upon a not so long ago, those 'flaws' and 'complications' were not so easy to see, so the perfect image was able to be maintained. However, with advances in technology, and advances in social media, these people (and remember that word people ) we look up to and idolise have gotten closer to us, and we are able to see them, albeit though a sometimes slightly distorted light.
I am not condemning the internet, nor am I wishing for the lack of social media, in fact I am grateful for both of these things, for various reasons.

I am simply saying...
Perhaps people should think more wisely these days about taking on 'idols'.
Ask yourself, are you truly ready to idolise someone?

Personally, I've been doing this a long time, since I can remember in fact, and I have struggled along the way with people I felt had 'let me down', especially as the internet slowly began to make things easier to discover.
Eventually I learnt, they don't let you down, you let them down, by not allowing them to be anything other than the narrow, confining 'perfect' version of themselves you have created.

I make no secret about who I idolise, and I use that word understanding the gravity it holds. Yes, I idolise Gerard Way, to the point that sometimes I forget the simple things I have learnt. I will admit to forgetting he is human, and he can and will do things I am not expecting (please note, I'm not addressing anything in particular here, this is just a general statement). But, perhaps that is my own human flaws showing there, forgetting these things.
However, I do accept everything that comes with him. I accept he might do things I don't like, things that shock me, possibly even upset me. But, in an odd kind of way... I trust him not to do it too often. Forgive me if I sound too 'out there' now, but I believe there is a reason I was drawn to him in the first place, and for that reason I know many things we believe in tally up together. And, for the times I've disagreed with something he has said/done, there have been so many more things that have made me glad to be a fan of his, has made me proud, even.
And, anyway, I've said before, I don't want him perfect. Perfect is boring, you can't relate to 'perfect'. Give me a human, give me someone giving their all, failing and stumbling occasionally, but carrying on anyway.

That's my idol.
And it's funny, because he even addressed this, in a song he stated was for the fans. He gets scared of it, even though he has no need to. He knows he shouldn't apologise, but he does it anyway.

In Ambulance, there's the line
"And if I ever let you down..."

This is to everyone. Even if you don't think of someone or call them an idol, there is usually someone.
Remember, if you ever feel let down by them, don't.
They're just proving they're human. They're like you.

Isn't it more worth looking up to someone real anyway?

  • Mood: Peaceful
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N1ghtAnge1 Featured By Owner Jun 5, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
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Raven052 Featured By Owner Jun 5, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Aww, thanks dude :D

(once again proving I'm one of the sane ones... What a scary thought :XD: )
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N1ghtAnge1 Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
You're welcome :D

(I know right, weird :o)
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Raven052 Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
(Terrifying in fact)
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N1ghtAnge1 Featured By Owner Jun 7, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
:XD:
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RobinHarrison Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2014
well written...."idolizing" a human instead of perfection has its own rewards. 
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Raven052 Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Exactly! :nod: :aww:
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My-Mental-Fiction Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2014  Student General Artist
:clap: you said it, sister! ;D 

I would also like to add that I wish we could see unmanipulated pictures of every single one of our 'idols' in the future. I wish no celebrity would be afraid of showing themselves as they truly are. Cause the world needs confidence, lots of confidence and role models! :dummy: This might be a wish that never come true, but I still like to have faith. :aww: 

Must everyone be just as truthful as Gerard when it comes to be who they are, for themselves, and not for others. :nod: 
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Raven052 Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Aww, that'd be lovely, wouldn't it? That way no one would feel pressured... Not the people who look up to them, scared they'll never be that 'perfect', or the people who are manipulated, who have their egos trashed because they are essentially being told they're not good enough unless they have 'help'.

Real people is what we need, what we really, deep down want to look up to. Who make us want to be... What we want to be. That's true inspiration :aww:
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My-Mental-Fiction Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2014  Student General Artist
It sure would! :D Very true! 


Absolutley!! :la: 
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Ikiyou Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is exactly why I listed you as someone in the fandom that I admire and respect. It makes me feel reassured that there are still rational fans that are capable of offering him (and the others, but this entry is specific to Gerard) "safer" interaction.

I agree, I think that people need to make sure they understand the definition and understand where they are in that. And decide on how healthy it is, realistic it is, and whether or not its something they can handle. It's funny, when I was younger I never analyzed myself like that. I didn't think about the 'other side'.

But yes, now that "idols" are more accessible, its good to step back and think. I think that it goes both ways, too. Gerard has had to take a few steps back when he noticed how deep he was getting. It's a tricky line, and its harder because there's a mutual desire to love and be loved... but not in a way that is dangerous. I know for sure that Gerard truly, truly cares and for the most, respects his fans. He doesn't patronize them. He tells them the blunt honest truth, whether they can stomach it or not. because he truly cares and respects them--not because he wants to disappoint them or lose them. he's just himself and if you can't handle it, he's fine with that. he'd rather not upset anyone, probably--unless it stands for something with merit--but if him being true to himself ruins it for someone, so be it.

i admire that, i've always loved him for that, and it makes me much more willing to trust and believe in him.

i'm really glad you addressed idolization.... and I think you're definitely handling it well.
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datewithterror Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2014  Student General Artist
This really hits me on a personal level because I idolize Gerard as well for many reasons, including his versatility. And I fuck things up so often that it feels good to see someone I look up to making some mistakes and fixing the problem because it makes me feel like I can do it, too.
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Raven052 Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Yeah, I definitely think it is healthier to look up to someone who doesn't mind saying 'well, shit...' Which Gerard is certainly not afraid to do.
If he messes up, he deals with it. Rather than pretending he never gets anything wrong, he actively shows that it's okay to get something wrong, so long as you fix it, if you can (and accepting when you can't).
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